I’ve never understood live fast and die young mentalities. Mostly because I’ve met a bunch of old people who never stopped living fast.
Why try to die young when you can be an old man at a rave?
The world needs more old women in denim dresses doing shots at the family picnic. You’d deprive us all of that? You’d just let your chaotic personality go to waste? I just can’t wrap my head around that.
You’ve gotta think long term. When I’m a fat old man I’m gonna start wearing a wizard hat and collect vaguely orb shaped paperweights.
Live fast die old surrounded by weird stuff from the experiences that brought you joy
The more I think about it the more I’m pretty sure I’m genderfluid, but not in a “sometimes I’m a girl and sometimes I’m a guy” way. It’s a “sometimes I’m a girl and sometimes I’m a Nothing” way. It seems to switch at random and I don’t notice until something that doesn’t usually make me feel dysphoric suddenly does, or vice versa.
Basically Gender Is A Spectrum but on one side is an anime girl and on the other side is a black hole.
I think so much of the outlook over fandom would change if many people treated it like it is: a goddamn hobby.
A fandom group is no better nor more revolutionary than a knitting club. It can replicate any real world biases and discriminations and it can also be used to raise money/group people towards causes. It can foster connections that will turn to actual real political action or it can just be a gathering of people who don’t know much about each other outside of it.
It can be lovely to experience when you’re surrounded by a lovely group and it can be hell when the group is full of cattiness and pettiness . It can be inclusive or it can be exclusive when you’re surrounded by bigotry.
Because it’s a group of people - it’s going to have problems. And when there’s a conflict or people are pointing shit out, it needs to be solved so its members aren’t spit out in the sake of “avoiding drama”. Because it’s a group of people, it’s not automatically changing the world in a blaze of self grandeur. Because it’s a group of people with a common hobby, it can impact its members lives for the better and give them a space to express themselves.
Fandom is a goddamn knitting club. It’s not this inherent great, subversive force of good nor this den of evil that’s traumatisizing the children. Chill out.
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